What this year 2020 taught us- My experience !

The year 2020 is difficult for all of us, and we have seen many ups and downs in the first half year itself. This year we are going through the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic because of which we are locked in our homes. All the things like work, gym,mall, society around which our lives revolved seems us now so temporary. It has taught us that, at last, our home and valuable relationships are with us in every situation which keeps us safe. We all have learned something in a good or a bad way from this year. I would like to share the lessons which I have learned during this roller coaster year 2020 in 8 points :-

1) Value Relationships

Treasure your loved ones a little more every day, hug them a bit tighter, talk to them for longer as you never know when is the last time you are doing so. In this pandemic situation, we have realized our lives and lives of our loved ones is the only treasure we have. As the people you give and receive energy from are very important which affects your mental state directly. Though we cannot meet our loved ones and have to maintain "social distancing” in this situation, yet we can be there for each other through calls or playing online games. Earlier, due to busy schedules we could not have that hours of conversation or time to play virtual games which actually helps us in healing our pains and mental stress. So, we should value every life around us and cherish every moment with your loved ones. Because it is a saying  “ रिश्तों की कदर समझलो तो बात इतनी सी है ताज महल दुनिया ने देखा है मुमताज़ ने नहीं ”.

2) No amount of success or fame defines Happiness

You can be happy in a small 4 by 4 room spending your time with your family, having a deep thoughtful conversation or sharing a meal together. The amalgamation of success and fame does not define happiness. I am sharing an incident of my childhood which made me realize what actually Happiness is? I used to go to learn classical dance, “Kathak” and that class used to be one hour every day except on weekends. Then, waiting eagerly for that hour every day because that was the time I was at my happiest moment. So happiness is when you love doing something without proving to anyone else which makes you feel content from inside and out. Moreover, you never realize while doing it how the time has actually passed so swiftly. So, happiness is in everything whether it is dancing, writing, reading, driving,music, gaming, watching movies or just surfing net which makes you feel ecstatic in every way, “क्यूंकि आप जो भी काम ख़ुशी से करते है वो हमेशा सहजता से हो जाता है ”

 3) Pay more attention towards Mental Health

Mental health is equally important as physical health. The people you give and receive energy from are very important that affect your mental state directly. But we don’t discuss and stress about it openly because we have a mindset of “Depression is a weakness, but actually it is an illness." So, we are living in a world where mental health is not given importance and if a person is going through it he or she is considered as weak or psycho. Therefore, we should give more importance to emotional wealth, “क्यूंकि पैसा सिर्फ हाथो की मेल है ”.

 4) Don't take life for Granted

Life is the most precious asset that anyone can have and it will slip off your hands, even before you know it. Every second of every day is a gift, and we should feel blessed for all the things we have so far. Problems and difficulties will always arise, but they are not as important as your life itself. Whether the day is good or bad, always find a blessing in it. And the day you thought you don’t have anything good just remember you are surrounded by your loved ones. So make it a point to show your loved ones how much you Love, appreciate their efforts and always cherish the moments which you have lived with them. Therefore, we all should learn that how our life feels is much more important than how actually our life looks.(कहा जाता है “जान है तोह जहान है )

 5) Everything is temporary

This pandemic made us realize everything is temporary whether it's our daily routine, jobs, gym, shopping luxury items, hanging out, junk food, relationships. Everything that we are used to taking for granted, everything that we thought would last forever is now just a short-lived moment. In short, you cannot control what happens but you can control how you react accordingly. We could not curtail this situation because it was not in our hands, but as “अँधेरे के बाद उजाला है ”. These days will vanish one day, and our normal days will come back soon when we will breathe freely around this beautiful world.

 6) All have their own struggles which you really never know

We always have this perception about the people that he is famous and affluent, then he must be happy. But the truth is all have their struggles, and journey perhaps you should never be censorious. Judging without knowing their actual story is actually harsh. Without knowing what someone is going through in their journey we cannot say that achieving that success was a piece of cake for them, or they must be happy because they have reached heights professionally. It is said  “किसी पुस्तक को उसके आवरण से मत आंकिए “Because everyone has an untold story, and the person may seem so normal to you but we don’t know how much invisible load that person is carrying. So, we should spread kindness, love, alacrity, and happiness everywhere because we never know who is hiding what behind a smiling face.

7) Stop Running in the Rat Race and Stop Comparing yourself to others.

Everyone is unique in its own way with all the hidden , or discovered talents. Some discover their talents in their young age while others in their old age. You should never compare yourself to others and never run in that race where you feel pressurized. We should always follow the path which our heart wants to follow. Due to this crisis or any other reason you may be jobless, but always remember that you are not worthless so never give up and believe in yourself. Maybe the things you are working on right now are not showing any outputs but one day it will and if it will not show any result you will definitely learn something new from it. You just don't have to be perfect in anything, your attitude towards it only matters. The main motive should be the “learning” from that experience. Moreover, if you think people judge you because you try new things and don't succeed in it, then the best solution is don't tell anyone until you succeed in it and keep following your heart ."जीवन में कभी किसी से अपनी तुलना ना करो ,आप जैसे है सर्वश्रेष्ठ है ईश्वर की हर रचना अपने आप में सर्वोत्तम है "

 8) Life is Simple

Never run with life, just walk through it while living. Life is damn simple! Don’t complicate it under your desires. We all have desires and expectations, and when they don’t come true we feel shattered. We always flaunt our lives on social media (the reel world for us) but in real life we are going through something else. Live the life on your own terms, happiness from inside matters. Because, no matter what you achieve, what you aspire to be. or how famous, and powerful you become, the foremost important thing is whether you're excited about each and every moment of your LIFE. There is a saying, "कदर करनी है तो जीवन की करो " you should value that you have life. This is the biggest asset you have among all the other materialistic things. Living your life simply has its own beauty in it, please notice that beauty.

I hope you all feel connected to my pensive thoughts.